Футболки - футболки с музыкальными группами

have been an enthusiastic squash club player for many years now. Of course, everytime I get on the court, I play to win. I mean, surely nobody plays to lose, right? The reward may not usually be in material form like money or trophies, but pride is equally (if not more) tangible a reward. Losing face is to be avoided as much as possible. It’s still very much carrot and stick motivation; it’s still extrinsic in nature. Curiously, there were times when I was playing I felt moments of ‘magic’ when I played for the love and joy of playing, and not so much for winning points. Unbelievable shots just flowed from my racket effortlessly. At moments like these, I felt time stood still, and the experience was so surreal, what a joy – I was in ‘the zone’. Later I found that it’s called ‘Flow’. The now famous term was coined by the Hungarian psychology professor Mihály Csíkszentmihályi, which is the mental state of operation in which a person performing an activity is fully immersed in a feeling of energized focus, full involvement, and enjoyment in the process of the activity. In essence, flow is characterized by complete absorption in what one does (definition taken from Wikipedia). The purpose of this post is not to elaborate too much on ‘Flow’ (I recommend the book ‘Flow: The Psychology Of Optimal Experience’ if you haven’t read it already). For me, I found out that there was something much higher, more powerful than the desire to win – which is the process of learning and mastery, which brought deep engagement and immense satisfaction to me. And I wanted the freedom to do it on my own terms, not restricted by boundaries set by the carrots and sticks. I longed for my inner drivers (intrinsic) to move me and dictate my motivation, and not by external forces. Deep down, I know this is much more fulfilling and rewarding in the long run. This applies to all areas of my life, not just in sports and games. What Drives Us? Two years ago, I came across Daniel Pink’s book ‘Drive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us‘ which explained very well the intrinsic nature of motivation – what truly drives us. Without reading Dan’s book, you can have a good grasp of his ‘Drive’ concept from his TED Talk video or the RSA ‘animated’ version below.From Dan Pink’s videos, you can see that there’s a big gap between what science knows and what people and businesses actually practice. And the carrot and stick motivation understanding is so outdated. He suggested that the three essential elements of motivation are these: 1) Autonomy – the desire to self-direct our own lives. 2) Mastery – the urge to get better and better at something that matters. 3) Purpose – the yearning to do what we do in the service of something larger than ourselves. With that I could understand much better why I do what I do, why I don’t, what really moves me, why I’m not motivated as much as I “should” by the external reward-punishment system in place. In place of the carrot and stick principle, give meaning and purpose to our pursuits and journey of accomplishments. Beyond the basic monetary/material reward system in place, allow yourself (and the people you lead) to have more autonomy, mastery and purpose, and watch what happens to your performance and overall happiness at work and life. In coaching, many clients come with surface goals (extrinsic nature) at first. In the exploratory and clarifying stages, we help them to discover deeper meanings and significance of what they truly want and why. It’s common that the clients’ end goal inevitably shifts to something else, often times something closer to their hearts during the coaching process. And in order to make lasting positive change in the clients, we have to let their actions be anchored and reinforced by intrinsic drivers, more than extrinsic ones.